When you make the difficult decision to get a divorce, one of the biggest obstacles you will face is likely a feeling of guilt. You may feel guilt that your marriage failed, that the family unit is disintegrating, and that your children will suffer. The opportunities to experience guilt during divorce are endless and you may feel like you have failed, but it’s important to keep in mind that the divorce is in the best interest of everyone involved – or else, you wouldn’t have made that decision. In order to start the process of healing from your divorce, you’ll need to overcome any feelings of guilt you may be faced with, says Dr. Paul Wanio in his article, Overcoming Guilt about the Divorce.
Keep these Things in Mind to Overcome Your Guilt
Your sense of guilt may be strongest where it involves your children. Dr. Wanio says it’s important to keep in mind the following:
- Nobody’s perfect, and that’s okay.
- Everyone makes mistakes, even when they’re doing their best.
- Divorce is like death in that you and your children will need to grieve for the losses divorce entails. Be there for your children, listen to them, and try to be understanding. Let your children know that it’s okay to have strong emotions, and encourage them to talk about their feelings.
- Negative comments made by your child may be an expression of distress, not criticism. Blaming you is a coping mechanism.
- Accept that change never happens as quickly as you’d like it to. Be patient.
- Tomorrow is another day.
- If you keep things in perspective, you’re less likely to become overwhelmed. Know that you can handle any one situation because it’s just one thing you’re faced with. Remember the things you have faced and overcame in the past and know that you will be able to live with this as well.
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Hiring a lawyer should be the first thing you do when encountering any legal matter, not a last resort. Whether you’re thinking about a separation or divorce or have been charged with a crime, been injured in an accident, or your civil rights have been violated, you need to first know your rights and your options. Consulting a lawyer first can actually save you both time and money in the long run.